While the holidays tend to be a whirlwind of social engagements, once the cyclone of action that hustled and bustled us from one party to the next finally sets us down, many of us tend to retreat back into our own worlds to rest and recuperate from all that action. If you’re feeling that energy (or are even still feeling sparklingly social), here are 5 things you can do in this quieter time of year to maintain connections and make your loved ones feel loved:
1. Say good things about them behind their back. If it gets back to them, they’ll feel great! If it doesn’t, consciously reflecting on their awesomeness is still spreading that energy. Good vibes for everyone!
2. Call a far-away friend you haven’t talked to in a while. It may be easier to reach out to those we don’t regularly see or talk to with a text or a Facebook message, but the very act of calling shows that you value your friend because you are setting aside the time and attention just for them. Plus, it is lovely to connect in the spontaneity of verbal conversation, scattered thoughts and all!
3. When a loved one is upset about something, just listen and hold space for them without trying to solve the problem. It’s a surprisingly rare thing just to be heard and witnessed!
4. Plan an event to share. Whether it’s going out to dinner or playing board games at home, come up with a plan for fun that you can share, leaving the time you will convene as the only detail that you need to work out together. Once you’re together, silence and put away your cell phones!
5. Hug. There are many emotional and physical health benefits that come from touch. The neuroscientist Edmund Rolls discovered that touch activates the brain’s orbitofrontal cortex, which is linked to feelings of reward and compassion. There are studies showing that touch signals safety; it calms cardiovascular stress and triggers a release of oxytocin, aka “the love hormone.” Oxytocin reduces stress, makes both parties happier, and builds a sensation of trust. Research indicates that in order for a hug to be truly effective in these ways, it must last more than six seconds. So give your loved one a big long hug and let them know they are adored, without even saying a word!
What are your favorite ways to spread love and show people that you care about them?
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